A Dominant's Perspective!

I've been asked, several times, to write about the Dominant's Perspective in regard to spanking.  Apparently there is a lot written from the submissive's perspective but not the Dom's.  In the end I can only write about my perspective in regard to spanking and I of course don't speak for all Dom's.

As a Dom I wish to Dominate and lead by example.  I'm not interested in a submissive who wants to be MADE to submit.  I don't wish to force anyone to do something they don't willing want to do.  For me, the idea of a submissive willingly wanting to submit to me is beyond erotic.  To me it's the ultimate trust.  She's saying, "I trust that you will do what's right."  On the non-erotic side it's the same thing too.  When she willingly places herself across my lap for a spanking she's saying, "If you have decided that I need to be punished then I submit to your authority over me."  Again, the trust that takes is almost spiritual.

To me it's not just a one way street either.  I derive satisfaction from spanking but I also desire my submissive(s) to derive satisfaction too.  There's the punishment and then the reward.  For many submissives I've found that the punishment, once it's over, can be the reward too.  They feel cleansed of their bad behavior.

I have heard from a few, let's say, out raged feminists who will say, "No one has the right to punish an adult.  Let alone in that way!"  I would say that I have the right when a submissive willingly submits to it.  I don't feel that I am by any means perfect.  I get punished in life too.  When I get punished it isn't a spanking, it can seem worse and last longer.  When a submissive gets punished by being spanked it's done and over with.  I suppose in many ways that's why I'm a spanker too.  I help release the guilt of bad behavior by giving a spanking that lasts for a relatively short time.

I have been with submissives however who had additions they wanted "Spanked out of them".  At first, I was obliged to fulfill their requests but later realized they needed therapy and not spankings.  The desire to participate in the many addictions out there is so much stronger than a spanking can cure.  Addictions come from a place deep in our soul and mind that we need to take care of through therapy.

There are other things, however, that can be "Spanked out of them".  I can leave that up to your imagination as to what those are but a good sound spanking takes care of many things that help straighten out a submissive.  A submissive, for example, who pops their gum when they chew it has two chances to stop doing that when I'm around.  The third time they end up across my lap.  It's not that I'm mad or angry at them.  It's that popping gum like that is rude, annoying and to say the least, obnoxious.  I won't be called "Dude" or other slang that young people use when talking to each other, either.  Again, two warnings and then it's over the lap.

And in the end there is a great deal to be said about the female bottom itself.  Spanking is like cracking the bottom open to find a wonderful price placed low and between those two soft orbs.  Now fully tamed they are tender to the touch and warm too.  As she kneels on the bed or bends over standing I'm able to enter her with a feeling of having conquered and she with a feeling of being conquered.  Every thrust cases her bottom to feel its tenderness as I thrust myself deep inside her.  If she's trained well she will motion back and forth as she slides me deep inside and then just to the lips of her vagina.  My feelings are that she is mine and I've made it known to her through her spanking.  She has given herself to me and now I will give myself to her.